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Sincerely advise everyone, don't get the priorities of life reversed. In the order of life, health always comes first. Getting enough sleep, eating well, and staying active—these three things are your foundation. If you trade your life for money every day, sacrifice sleep, neglect meals, and skip exercise, the money you earn in the end might not even cover medical expenses. Remember: your body is your only capital. Take care of your capital first, then talk about everything else. ​​​

The human brain constantly generates thoughts and emotions, but many of these thoughts are just "automatic reactions" and are not necessarily true or useful. If a person keeps following these thoughts, they are prone to anxiety, internal conflict, and emotional amplification. Psychology emphasizes a skill: to be aware without being carried away. That is, you can see "what I am thinking, what emotions I have," but not take them as your entire self. When people no longer overly identify with their thoughts and emotions, it becomes easier to view things calmly and objectively, and they are less likely to be influenced by impulses and biases. This state is called "decentering" or "psychological distance" in mindfulness psychology. It does not mean becoming indifferent, but rather: emotions can exist, but you are not controlled by them.

As long as you get used to paying for others, they will think you should always pay. As long as you are used to wrapping things up every time, if any problem arises, others will naturally complain about you.

When you feel like you're overthinking, try thinking in English, and you'll find that you can't overthink as much. ​​​

As an adult, you carry a twenty-year mortgage and spend 200 yuan on a game—which of these is more likely to upset your parents? You have to choose a difficult major in college, or you want to adopt a pet tomorrow—which one makes them more anxious? Your work stress is almost unbearable, or you have to rely on takeout for a whole week—which situation is more serious? But in reality, those who "love" you the most often fail to grasp the real "point." (Maybe they are the ones who can grasp the "point" best; the point is they dare not get involved in high-cost matters but still want to be part of your life.)

No one is a permanent wind; you can only leverage their strength, not rely on it. When others help you, it's a favor; when they don't, it's their right. When the wind blows, it can give you a push, but the wind won't always blow for you. When the wind stops, you still have to walk the path yourself. Don't expect anyone to always be your backing, including your parents. Also, don't place your hope for survival on a wind that can dissipate at any moment. ​​​

Why does money seem to decrease day by day, making you anxious to no end; yet life itself diminishes day by day, and you hardly seem to care? Because you have experienced poverty, but have not truly faced death. You are always calculating how much money you have left, but rarely think about how much time remains. You repeatedly agonize over which path is the right one. But in reality, no path is perfect; all roads ultimately lead to the same destination—the grave. Since the end of life is already written, why live every step as if it were a judgment? When you can't figure something out, just set it aside for a while. Because before long, you will encounter even more things you can't understand. When you're tired, rest; don't always treat "enduring hardship" as a task that must be completed. Most of the hardships ahead will come to you in due time; no one is competing with you for them. Life is like choosing a seat on a ship destined to sink. Instead of worrying about which seat is safer, it's better to make this journey a bit more comfortable. Remember, the ship may eventually sink, but before that happens, you can still enjoy the scenery.

Reading is one of the highest leverage activities in the world; by investing roughly the equivalent of one workday, you can access what the smartest people have already thoroughly researched.

Luck and fortune may seem like gifts that fall randomly, but more often, they are the result of being "manufactured" bit by bit. If a person stays at home for a long time, remains in the same city, repeats the same routines, social circles, and choices, doing almost the exact same things every day, the variables approach zero, and opportunities naturally won't appear out of thin air. I have hardly ever seen such a person continuously "run into good luck." On the contrary, those who seem to be very lucky often keep moving, trying new things, and interacting with new people and environments, exposing themselves to more uncertainty. What we call luck is essentially the result of you actively increasing variables, after which the odds start to tilt in your favor.

An energetic secret: for most of your day, don't rely on willpower to do things, but do them unconsciously. You need to learn not to make decisions on small matters, just do them directly without hesitation. If you want to take a shower, just take a shower; if you want to sleep, just sleep—be straightforward. Do it as soon as you think of it, and let it go once it's done. The most exhausting part is never the task itself, but the repeated hesitation and mental tug-of-war before doing it. You end up drained before even starting the task. ​​​